Thanks for taking the time to visit! This post is all about confidence.
If you’re here it’s likely you’ve seen my Instagram @knotjustforboys and the looks I rock daily… and yes because I’ve been asked a number of times, I do in fact wear suits 5 days a week so its my daily style, and so so so much ironing! Lol (and if you haven’t seen my handle check it out!) but before I get into style tips on the blog I wanted to start with 2 very important posts. I feel they are key to helping anyone getting into rocking their style that is a little different before or even while they are on their journey.
The reason I wanted to start with these topics is because I was asked an interesting question by a follower, ‘how do people react to your look’. I will do a post on this but it got me thinking. What do you need in order to kill it at rocking a dapper look? This is where my first 2 post have come from. So if you master my first 2 blog posts you will take the world by storm!
The first one, the one you’re reading now is about confidence. To do anything different, like being a women who is a menswear enthusiast and whose daily style reflects this, you need to have confidence. The other post will be on ways to deal with criticism. This is because the world isn’t a fair place. There will be people who want to bring you down. We often focus on the negative rather then the positive even when the positives out weighs the negatives! So lets get into it how to master confidence!
What some people don’t realise about confidence is that its not some people just ‘have it’ and some people just don’t. In fact it’s a skill and like any skill the more you practice the better you get.
In our formative years confidence is usually a product of your surroundings, parents, siblings, school. All these contribute to your confidence level and how you learn to build it.
The great thing about being an adult is we can now take control of our confidence and develop it. This means that we can be who we are and look how we want and win people over in the process.
7 key tips to building confidence
- Feeling good – You need to feel good, so find the look that works for you. When you look in the mirror at home the response needs to be “DAMN!! I look good!”. This is because if you believe you look good others will think it to. Dress for yourself not other people.
- Practice, practice, practice – like with any skill you need to hone it so initially when starting out, you need to practice. You can do this be wearing your style where you feel comfortable even if it’s just at home. You need to be comfortable with your look to feel confident in it!
- Surround yourself with like-minded people – Individuals who share your sense of style, whether that be online or in your local community. People who are going to be supportive and give you good feedback. This might be positive or constructive and it will help build confidence and refine your style.
- Level up approach – By this I mean don’t go 0-100 over night. If you’re a little more introverted or don’t want to bring a large amount of attention to yourself all at once, start slow. You could start by upping your shoe game, accessorising with a nice watch, buy a shirt with French cuffs and get a nice pair of cufflinks. Over time you bring all the elements together. This gives you time to experiment and build confidence in your look. It also means people wont be as shocked at the transformation so you can get all the compliments with out all the questions about why you changed your look. (I’ll explain this concept in more detail in an upcoming post, and how I did it.)
- Self talk – talk yourself up, tell yourself “I gonna smash today”, “I got this”, “I am rocking this look!”. This is a great way to put yourself in the right mind set. Also ‘Visualise the win’ think about what the best possible outcome for the day looks like before you walk out the door, this will help you project that positive vibe you want in return.
- Ignore the haters, because haters gonna hate – I know what your saying… easier said then done! True, but what you need to remind yourself evey time someone have something negative to say is that it’s a reflection of them not you. Some people are just horrible and never have anything good to say about anyone. Other people will be jealous of your courage to be true to you are and do what you want to do because they don’t have it themselves. When you realise this, you see its not really a criticism its actually a compliment because you are clearly doing it right! If anyone ever has a negative thing to say about your look and you want an honest opinion put a pic on your Instagram and tag me @knotjustforboys and I’ll let you know, because lets be real does that novice at work or school even know what they are talking about?
- Believe in yourself – This is the most important part and the most difficult when learning the skill of confidence. We are all unique and different and this is what makes all of us awesome in our own way. We all have people in our lives who believe in us, parents, family and friends. However your mum believing every idea you ever had was the best thing since the invention of Velcro isn’t the same as convincing others, For example like convincing your boss, that your ready for that promotion or that they should let you lead that project you super passionate about. If you believe you however they are much more likely to believe you in you to. The same goes for rocking your new dapper look if you believe you rock it everyone else will believe it to!
Thanks for reading, if you have any questions, comments or other ideas on how to be more confident please put them in the comment selection below. Also make sure you head over to the Instagram handle @knotjustforboys and follow for style ideas!