Socially Awkward Situations
So we’ve all been there, entering a socially awkward situation we just don’t want to be in. Thing is some times we have no choice and some times we end up having the best time. It’s not always easy going from feeling nervous and sitting alone sipping your drink wishing your time there was over to winning over the room and feeling like you dominated.
I’ve got 7 tips to help you get out there and rock the event
This is the most important and also the most difficult but the good stuff in life rarely comes easy. If you don’t get off the couch and go engage you’re going to miss out on some of the great things the world has to offer.
People are more likely to engage with someone who has a friendly positive vibe so get out there and start with a smile.
3. Don’t Sit
Sitting will isolate you and make you seem less approachable, so stand and move around.
4. Find someone else who is also alone
If you feel awkward its likely someone else might to. Take a look around and see if there is anyone else who look like they are there alone. This way you can make a new friend easily first up then spend the time going round meeting people with them. This will help make you feel more comforatble.
5. Create Conversation
At a meet up try conversation starters like
Complimenting someone, but make sure you have a follow up question so the conversation continues to roll.
You ‘Love that blazer and tie combo’
You ‘I’ve been looking at getting a new blazer, do you have anywhere you’d recommend?’
Ask questions that are open
‘What do you think of the venue?”
‘What is keeping you busy this week?’
‘Where are you from?
‘How did you find out about this meet up?’
‘What do you think of the cocktail selection here?
‘What do you do for a living?’
A good tip to remember if you get stuck with trying to think up are open-ended question is to ask how someone thinks or feels about something. Asking someone about their thoughts and feeling normally needs more than a one word answer.
At a work conference try conversation starters like
‘What are your thoughts the event?’
‘What do you enjoy most about working for your company?’
‘What are the top priorities for your company at the momenpt?’
‘How do you feel about the current climate we are working in?’
‘What opportunities are you hoping this event will help provide?’
‘What are some of your companies top achievements?’
‘What do you think is the most effective way to deal with the current challenges were facing in the industry?’
‘What is the greatest motivation in your team at the moment?’
6. Be Engaged
It’s important to actively listen and engage with people even when you may not be overly interested in what they are saying. Make sure you make then feel like you understand and value what they are saying.
7. Move On
If the conversation is over, let it be and move on. You don’t want the awkward silence hanging over both of you waiting for the other person to try and reinvigorate the conversation. Plus there are more awesome people for you to go meet! So try things like ‘It was great meeting you’, ‘Glad we got to chat’ or ‘Thanks you’ve given me some interesting ideas to think about’ then move on.
Next time you’re thinking of going somewhere and then start listing the reason not to go, stop, and get up and go because once you’ve done that the hardest part I over! Plus you never know what new friends you might make and they might end up being one of the best friends you’ll ever have.
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